Forgivenes is truly a difficult thing.... :)

Hello again,

I was going to write about something that I still cannot get to grips with, i.e., the death of the King of Pop, but lets digress a bit, shall we?? Am sure most of you have heard about the story of the cheating South Carolina (wherever that is :)) Governor. Well, an old friend Charles Sendegeya penned an article on Mercatornet about him and his 'forgiving' wife (http://www.mercatornet.com/articles/view/how_to_treat_an_unfaithful_husband/), which solicited some stinging remarks from a number of people around the world....... and why not me as well ?? :):)... here we go (PS: this will be one of the more 'thoughtful' musings)....

First I want to say thank you Charles for your this well-written piece. As I was reading along, I was thinking how delicate this subject of forgiveness is, and indeed the comments do give proof of this.

At the end of the day, because of our human nature, forgiveness is something that will always be heavily challenged by our strong emotions/passions, be it anger, hatred, etc. We cannot stand there and imagine how so and so could do this to us or to our loved ones. And I guess this is why some of the comment's to Charles' article border on "wanting to strike Charles dead immediately"- such is the venom that almost pops out of the computer as you read some of the posts here! :)

Perhaps the key to forgiveness lies in the humility to imagine ourselves being in the position of the offender. What if it was us who had digressed (and this is not completely unfathomable, being imperfect as we are)? What if we were truly sorry for hurting someone we truly loved and cared about? Would we want to be forgiven, wishing to do anything to make up for the hurt we have caused?

Most people will contend that this is an extremely difficult thing to do, least of all because of all the emotion that surrounds the situation, and throws any semblance of rationality out of the window when we are in the position of the offended.

But when all is said and done, I truly commend Jenny Sanford for forgiving her husband and I truly hope their marriage becomes rides this wave and comes out stronger.

A thought for the rest of us: how would we want to be treated if we were in Mark's position? Would we treat someone else that offends us in the same way?

And I still have not written about the late King!!!

Start allover again

Ok, here we are again... Had started the first one but I do not know where it all got lost from- could not even find the username and password (and no am not growing that old!!).... Lets hope this one sticks..

What will I be writing about?? Well, I have always wanted to wr-... "shhhh," u say "u havent even answered the question!".. ya ok! That will be a feature of these musings... I usually do not follow any particular formula or order. I just write as it comes. "Isn't that a journa-", you begin to ask; all I can say is SHUT IT, LET ME FINISH!- so I will be writing about many things- sports, human life, highlights and lowlights of my day/weekm MY reflections/thoughts on what it really means being a child of God, but all in a fun and easy-going manner..

And as I was saying, I have always wanted to write- suffice it to say, I have never had the talent or the commitment, and so this sort of gives me the opportunity to practice what I have always wanted to be! Hopefully, we can all look back in a couple of years' time and say "what rubbbbbbbbbbbbbiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiisssssssshhhhhhhhhhh he was writing about".. that would be kinda nice, coz it would mean some one has been so redudant as to read through....

the race starts now... (how do they say that in Latin??)