Forgivenes is truly a difficult thing.... :)

Hello again,

I was going to write about something that I still cannot get to grips with, i.e., the death of the King of Pop, but lets digress a bit, shall we?? Am sure most of you have heard about the story of the cheating South Carolina (wherever that is :)) Governor. Well, an old friend Charles Sendegeya penned an article on Mercatornet about him and his 'forgiving' wife (http://www.mercatornet.com/articles/view/how_to_treat_an_unfaithful_husband/), which solicited some stinging remarks from a number of people around the world....... and why not me as well ?? :):)... here we go (PS: this will be one of the more 'thoughtful' musings)....

First I want to say thank you Charles for your this well-written piece. As I was reading along, I was thinking how delicate this subject of forgiveness is, and indeed the comments do give proof of this.

At the end of the day, because of our human nature, forgiveness is something that will always be heavily challenged by our strong emotions/passions, be it anger, hatred, etc. We cannot stand there and imagine how so and so could do this to us or to our loved ones. And I guess this is why some of the comment's to Charles' article border on "wanting to strike Charles dead immediately"- such is the venom that almost pops out of the computer as you read some of the posts here! :)

Perhaps the key to forgiveness lies in the humility to imagine ourselves being in the position of the offender. What if it was us who had digressed (and this is not completely unfathomable, being imperfect as we are)? What if we were truly sorry for hurting someone we truly loved and cared about? Would we want to be forgiven, wishing to do anything to make up for the hurt we have caused?

Most people will contend that this is an extremely difficult thing to do, least of all because of all the emotion that surrounds the situation, and throws any semblance of rationality out of the window when we are in the position of the offended.

But when all is said and done, I truly commend Jenny Sanford for forgiving her husband and I truly hope their marriage becomes rides this wave and comes out stronger.

A thought for the rest of us: how would we want to be treated if we were in Mark's position? Would we treat someone else that offends us in the same way?

And I still have not written about the late King!!!